Did I catch you off guard with this title for the post?
No, my dear cyster, I am not making waves by saying only a certain “beauty” type can actually lose weight, but weight loss is tied to your beauty. This is an epic post, but hear me out.
You, my cyster, are beautiful.
If you were to find yourself in front of a full length mirror, what would you see? Would you see arrows pointing to all your trouble spots with labels such as my belly is too big, my arms are flappy like bat wings, or my thighs have too much cellulite?
I can guarantee you as a fellow cyster, our minds hone straight in on what WE think on our bodies is keeping us from being beautiful.
You are not alone! The symptoms of PCOS such as acne, facial hair, thinning hair, weight gain, and the mood swings can all be making a huge impact on how we see ourselves. Women with PCOS suffer from low body imagine more than the general population.
So, before we get into the meat and potatoes of the healthy lifestyle plan I have for you to start losing the weight even with PCOS, we need to have a little girl talk.
PCOS Crushes Our Self-Confidence
I continued to have severe acne into my adult years which had a huge impact on how I viewed others’ opinion of me. As the youngest in my department, I felt my coworkers thought I was not as professional or questioned my ability to do my job.
Tera is a cyster who has struggled with facial hair for years. She finds herself dealing with the razor on a daily basis. How did this make her feel? She felt manly and very unattractive. What man would be interested in a woman who could give them a run for their money with shaving equipment?
How about you? Do you just want to hide because you are so self-conscious about what others are thinking about these terrible symptoms?
One of my coaching clients, Mari, even started second guessing her marriage. She had many thoughts that stemmed along the lines of ‘why is my husband with me when there are tons of more women out there that are not going through all this and who are at least half my size?’
Another cyster, Jamie, just could not lose her excess weight with any diet plan that she tried. She was the typical yo-yo dieter that could lose a little weight, but then she could put it right back on in no time flat. This went on for years. When she finally came to me, she felt so defeated that no matter what I would put her on, she would fail.
Are you thinking this is mean of me to say? Perhaps.
The reason she was set up to fail, no matter what program I gave to her, was because she no longer believed she was capable of success. She lost belief that she was worth the effort. She lost the belief that she truly was beautiful.
Our Self-Confidence is in the Tank
Think about what you think makes a woman beautiful. What is your definition of a beautiful woman?
Does it center on certain physical features such as eye color, hair color, hair style, body type, or chest size? The definition found from various sources focus on physical qualities that are pleasing to the eye.
Many cysters that I have met state a woman just free of excess facial hair, acne, or weight is beautiful.
What has influenced your definition of beauty? The two biggest influencers when it comes to a woman’s beauty definition is the media and her personal relationship encounters.
The Media has a huge impact on how we view what is beautiful. We all know that the models and movie stars have every advantage such as hairstylists, makeup artists, and photo shop that help them look their best. Most of the time the final product hardly looks like the model.
Even among those we view as the most beautiful models or celebrities are suffering from their very own low self-esteem. They see the final products of the media sources they are a part of and it has been altered to the extent that they feel how they truly look isn’t good enough.
Not only does media affect how we view ourselves, but our relationships can negatively affect how we think of ourselves. Those closest to us often hurt us the worst. They can say things like “are you sure you are going to eat that” or they can just come right out and say “you are getting kind of heavy…maybe you should find a diet”.
Sometimes, it isn’t those around us who are sabotaging our self-esteem. We can be our own worst enemy. Jealous of the women around us. Think that woman has everything.
All of these lead to you feeling completely inadequate. You think this is as good as it can get.
The bottom line is all this negatively is one of the main things holding you back from finally losing the weight for good.
Having No Self-Confidence Actually Kills Our Weight Loss
As women we already have terrible expectations of our bodies in general. From all areas of our lives we are bombarded with photo shopped images of models and celebrities. There seems to be zero cellulite. Their waists are perfectly muffin top less. Their booties look amazing in those barely there bikinis.
The truth of the matter is that there is no such thing as a perfect body. All celebrities get majorly touched up.
What we need to wrap our minds around is that we are our own worst enemy. We feel judged. We feel like failures when we don’t live up to our ideals.
The first thing that must be there for any weight loss plan to work is the belief that you CAN and WILL do succeed. Without that belief, you are wasting your time. You won’t find the results you are looking for, or if you do, they won’t last.
Take a moment right now to look past the PCOS and the weight and “imperfections” you see staring back at you in the mirror and answer this question: what has your body done or allowed you to accomplish lately that you are proud of?
If you can’t find anything, you are not looking past the outward things that are bugging you. Think about it. How awesome is your body?
The top reasons women are having difficulty losing weight and keeping it off when they have tried many different weight loss plans without results is this: beneath it all you are afraid of failing and you don’t believe you are worth it.
Let us get one thing straight, cyster. You are beautiful. You are!
How Our Beauty Kicks Off Weight Loss with PCOS
Stop making your body your enemy.
When we focus on all the things our bodies are not, we lose sight of what our bodies are truly capable of. Look past your PCOS symptoms and what do you see?
You want to know what I see when I look at you? I see a woman who is strong. I see a woman who has so much to offer the world. I see a woman who is capable of anything you put your mind to. I see a woman who is a kind and caring daughter, wife, mother, friend. And that my friend, is true beauty.
True beauty is seeing your body for what it truly is. It is an amazing thing. It has allowed you to do so many things to bring you happiness and to help you care for those closest to you. It is time to truly appreciate your body for how it enables you to fight infections, hike that hill, care for a sick loved one, move the furniture, and much more.
You are not a victim. You can lose the weight. You are worth the effort. You deserve to be proud of what your body can accomplish whether getting a lean body or proving that you are strong or hiking that trail you never thought was possible.
I want you to know that you are worth it. You are worth the effort to reach your goals. You deserve happiness.
Your body is good, beautiful, and strong. It’s time to convince your mind that you are valuable.
Now that we are starting to uncover how beautiful your body is, let’s figure out what little green monster is getting in the way of your happiness.
We need to identify what gets you thinking negatively or engaging in activities that are not promoting your ultimate well-being. When you are feeling depressed, sad, or inferior, what is setting off that thought? When you find yourself eating because of an emotional response, what area of your life do you need comfort? What is causing you to not think getting out for a little walk or getting active is something you will just put off tomorrow when you will feel more like it? What is causing you to go into your shell and do things that are sabotaging your self-esteem and your overall health?
Once you can identify these areas that are causing you stress or to belittle yourself, we can start figuring out how to turn those negatives into positive responses that will actually set you up for a wonderfully healthy body.
Next, we must stop beating ourselves up when we start a diet or exercise plan and then a few weeks in, totally give up.
Natalie was a fellow cyster who tried many different times to start a diet plan. She has probably tried over 12 different diets and has yet to lose the weight. You want to know her downfall? She has a weak moment and eats something that is “forbidden” on her diet. She then proceeds to beat herself and her lack of willpower up as she gives up.
Don’t think you are a failure if you have tried many different diets out there and have yet to see results. It’s time you are not so hard on yourself.
In the new eBook that will be hitting Amazon in a few short weeks, I will be giving you some diet and exercise strategies that have helped hundreds of my cyster coaching clients lose weight. They work. Get on the VIP list at the end of this post, to get the special insider discount when it gets published.
You can lose weight on any diet plan, even the Twinkie diet showed weight loss. You want to know why this diet works for the cysters more than any other diet? The truth lies in the pressure I put on my clients.
You will not find me breathing down your throat saying, “You can’t eat that” or “I can’t believe you ate that”.
It’s time you took off the pressure. It’s time we set you up with everything you need to know in order to lose the weight and keep it off for life. It’s time we set you up with everything you need to know in order to live the healthiest life you can possibly live without the future complications that PCOS increases our risk for.
It won’t be easy. You have to be willing to put in the work. However, it will not be ultra-restrictive with zero wiggle room. It will be the plan that you can get right back on the wagon with in case you stumble a little.
You can’t gain 50 pounds from one piece of cake. So, this plan is all about not beating yourself up. It’s about celebrating the successes and still enjoying living life to the fullest.
It all boils down to taking care of our bodies and loving our bodies for all they allow for us to accomplish.
I want us to take the focus off of how much weight we can possibly lose, and make our number one priority taking care of your body. When you feel you are worthy and more precious than rubies, you will be much happier in your everyday life. You will be able to take better care of yourself which in turn, will better equip you to help those you care about in your life.
By focusing on the positives and learning how to banish our negative thoughts about our PCOS symptoms, we can actually change our lives. The more we believe our bodies are worthy of being taken care of, the faster we can lose the weight. The more we believe our bodies are worthy of being taken care, the more healthy decisions we will make leading to better outcomes than you could ever imagine.
I don’t want you sitting out the rest of your life. Get out there and live it! Let’s make a difference in our world!
Creating Your Self-Confidence Goal
So, chances are high you are looking to lose weight since you are reading this epic post.
Creating goals should not be limited to what food you are going to eat and how you are going to exercise. Before you can conquer those daily habits, you must first get your belief in the right place.
You are worthy of good. You are beautiful just the way you are. When you finally believe you are beautiful, your self-confidence and many other areas of your life will soar. When you have self-confidence, you will become a force to be reckoned with.
It’s time for you to set your “I love my body” goal. This is a goal focused on helping you believe in yourself. Helping you believe you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Helping you believe that your body is not the enemy. This goal will be the catalyst for helping you take better care of your body for the rest of your life.
Your “I love my body” goal can be more energy, more strength, or even something you didn’t think your body could do for you.
An example: I will recognize my triggers for when I usually think negative thoughts about my body. I will turn these thoughts into positive characteristics of what my body has done for me.
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In the comments below…name one thing about yourself that you are proud of! What came to your mind first? Write it below…
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